Working Outside-the-Home Moms Please Speak Up

Assalamu alaykum all :)

Alhamdulillah it's been 9 1/2 weeks since iBaby has graced us with his arrival. In about two weeks, I will be returning to work, full-time, in the evening. My heart is breaking, as he is getting cuter each day, and now he has a repertoire of tricks at bedtime, that I will miss, five nights a week. I'm not worried for his well being, as he will be home with Baaba who is in amazing father, and who will give him so much TLC inshaallah.

I'm just feeling deflated/sad/heartache for being away from him. I cannot work days- because then iBaby would be in daycare 9 hours a day, and I am not willing to do that.

My God. Mashaallah he is so soft and sweet. His legs are chubby and cute. He's very calm and easy going- and loves to smile, coo and make baby noises. Four days ago, he found his hands and now they are in his mouth frequently. Sometimes I put him down for a nap, and when I walk back into the room, I hear him sucking. He still loves to be swaddled at night, and when I'm all finished wrapping him, he gives me a huge gummy grin and loves to be cuddled. We then head to the rocking chair for some quiet time. He stays awake and just looks at me, and I feel like I'm the best thing ever. I will miss this.

So, what I want to know is: how do you all cope with returning to work? Do you have a strategy for getting things done at home, as your time is limited? How do you juggle your husbands, and children and your own needs? Does anyone have any helpful hints that you would like to share? Even your smallest tip or idea could be helpful...

Alhamdulillah for the opportunity to work. Alhamdulillah for my education and skill that allows me to help provide. Alhamdulillah for a hard working husband ( and outstanding father to our son) who will begin graduate school in September. Alhamdulillah for our healthy baby boy, and may Allah swt protect him always.

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Miss Muslimah said...

ibaby sounds absolutlely adorable!

At first i thought that when I went to school I would have to leave him in a daycare(which I really didnt want to do) but alhamdullilah,g-gma will be taking care of him! Whew!

Hijabi Apprentice said...

Asalaamu Alaikum Umm iBeastie,

I have nothing really to add but Umm Salihah has some posts on her blog that may be helpful.

ma'a salaamah,


iMuslimah said...

J: Who could be better than g-gma? Mashallah it will be a cherished experience for both of them.

Im excited u r going to school!!!!

HA: Doesn't UmmSalihah have an awesome blog?? I visit daily!

Salams :)

Miss Muslimah said...

D: actually its Great g-ma! LOL!

before you ask,ill tell ya...YES,she can handle him! least she said she could! LOL!

Big Sis said...

Salam wa alaykum sister,

I can feel you happiness and love and Allah's love for you and your family. May Allah grant us this level of happiness.

I love Umm Salihah (She is also my best friend and inspired me to start up my blog) - I agree with the other sister - she is the best at giving advice of this nature as she works full time (during the day), mother of three and a devoted wife, sister, mother, aunty, cousin and best friend!!

UmmAbdurRahman said...

Imuslim I just dont know what to say. Are you working evenings or overnight? If you are working evenings it will be much easier alhamdulillah.

I've never had to juggle a baby with work so I'm no good on the advice for that. I do work overnights and have to take care of my 4 year old during the day and it is HARD. You will settle into a nice routine. As long as your husband is helpful and supportive you will be just fine inshaAllah.

And about ibaby... you will miss him and I wouldn't expect anything less than that. You will be okay.